This chapter is devoted to that encouraging repetition. The Positives What follows is a list of seven specific benefits that are repeatedly experienced in the secular/religious marriage.
“We both found that each other was not the ‘scary atheist’ and ‘crazy Christian’ that we were led to believe,” says Julie, a Lutheran married to an atheist.
When we got sober, my husband tried to find a spirituality that he could accept, but today he's quite happily a staunch agnostic or, as he calls himself, "aspiritual." Throughout our twenty-two year relationship, he's viewed most of my spiritual explorations kindly, supporting me as much as he could. He could care less about church and I could care less about trains, but we're partners so we indulge each other without complaint.
But when I returned to my childhood church, he struggled -- just like I struggled when he gave up all attempts at spirituality around the same time. Ultimately, being married to an atheist as a believer is just like being married to someone that loves football when you can't stand the sport; you tolerate the differences because that is what couples do.
Is your partner willing to let you raise them, or is this the straw that breaks the camel’s back?
When I was a kid, my mother and I joined a very large "non-denominational" Christian Church, one of the earliest versions of the Mega Churches that exist today. I was in the children's choir, the community was lovely, and we sang from a song book with drawings of long-haired hippies.
Everything was great until politics began to creep in and the church began hosting speakers like Jerry Falwell, the ultraconservative pastor and political pundit.
“I used to see things in fairly black and white ways and was very judgmental.
She makes me think first about whether I am expressing the true heart of Islam in what I say.