This isn’t to say to be “juiciosa” is to be boring, but just that there are certain types of attributes and behaviors that Colombian men value in the women that they date.
It all depends on the relationship, but this is where clear communication and understanding comes into extreme importance.
Communication is made up of a couple different factors. Even if you are saying something in perfect Spanish to your partner, your cultural differences can still cause some steep miscommunication. Mario calls my “belly” a “chicharroncito” in a very cutesy way.
Coming from a very aesthetic-focused land called Southern California, I took this as an extreme offense the first time I heard it and thought he was strongly hinting at me to lose weight. When Mario says something that doesn’t make me feel good (even if his intention was harmless), I tell him directly “I don’t like it when you say/do _____ because to me it says _____”.
I also had girls night with no guys at all, friends or boyfriends.
Colombian dating etiquette can be a little different.
It can be really challenging, especially if this is your first relationship with a Colombian man and especially if you don’t have other Gringa friends who have been in relationships with Colombian men to ask advice. I haven’t lived with my parents since I was 17 and none of my past boyfriends lived in the same states as their families. For me, manicured nails, makeup, and perfectly smooth legs was never really my priority (you could say I grew up more of a “beach scrub”). Colombian men, and Colombian culture in general, expect groomed and well-presented women.
Here are some differences between Colombian dating culture and dating culture in the United States, and my suggestions on how to address them: Colombian men are family men. So all of a sudden having Colombian in-law’s that I saw on a weekly basis and that messaged me every other day and that asked me personal questions was a bit overwhelming. Colombian dating culture also prefers women who are “juiciosa”.
Like, As someone who likes to take things slow and is very relaxed about my relationships, this caught me off guard a bit. Usually once you start going out with someone more than just a couple times, you’re in. And, if you’re going to use a dating-app to meet potential romantic partners, make sure to follow my online dating guideline so you can avoid some too-intense people (I learned the hard way on this one).
The same goes for mentioning marriage, kids or meeting the family.
Now this really is a tricky situation when dating people from other countries.
In the United States, I would always go out without my American boyfriend.
My best friend in the States was a guy and it was normal for us to go out to the bars together both alone and with other friends.