We don’t need to demonstrate a Dexter-complex to know that we can be the number one cause of our own failures and downfalls.
Fortunately, there’s a solution: we just have to be aware of this monster inside of us, understand its gameplan and overpower its demoralizing voice. Listed below are 8 reasons why you, of all people, are your number one worst enemy, along with how you can overcome, well, yourself.
However, if you walk into every situation with an expectation to gain the most out of it, you’re going to almost always come out of it feeling unfulfilled.
If you set ridiculous goals for yourself – say, you’re going to sign up for that gym membership and commit to a workout every second day after work – you’ll either burn yourself out and crash or let go of the commitment and experience some measure of having failed yourself.
It requires a degree of optimism, but taking into account all the good things you do on a small scale helps build your confidence, motivation, and self-respect.
Similar to the point made above, this quality of your inner enemy is by far the most pervasive.
Even the small things you do and achieve on a daily basis matter.
One of the fundamental goals in everyone’s life is to have a pleasurable time here.
Even louder may be a voice of complete impracticality and unrealistic hope. It’s good to expect a lot of yourself, great to forecast good things coming your way.
We all experience those moments of self-loathing, unrelenting frustration that stems from our own hands.
We also seem to hit a wall every now and then, question the road that we’re on and maybe have a quarter and/or middle life crisis. Indecision, self-doubt, lack of confidence or motivation are all byproducts of our inner villain.
We come up with an initial answer to a problem, then over-complicate the matter and do a complete 180. While it is important to think carefully about certain matters, over-thinking them can prove detrimental.
For instance, if your next job interview leaves you with a bad feeling (say, you know that your boss would be a real pain to work under), and you instinctively say no, your rationality may eventually override the decision and lead you to take the position because of the other benefits that surround its acquisition.