He adds, "the women who real were very specific about what they were looking for, and put it this way, if someone's looking for a BBC [big black cock] I know I'm not the man for the job!
" Describing his most memorable encounter, Josh says, "it was with a girl who had a fantasy of meeting a stranger, getting what she wanted from the sex, then leaving.
"We were in a pub in Uxbridge and I whipped out a vibrating pantie set and said, 'go and put it on in the toilet.' Then I spent the evening controlling the vibrating knickers with a remote." Neil, who's 25, is telling me about a date he went on after answering an ad in Casual Encounters, part of the now defunct Personals section of Craigslist.
"We got a taxi back to mine and had some fun, then afterwards we chilled to Prince.
There was something amazing about that." So how does he feels about the demise of the Personals?
"It was a place where people could be honest about their needs and wants, and experiment with people who shared similar interests, with no harm to anyone. I share a lot of sympathy with people who don't have that avenue anymore." He adds, "I fell across Craigslist as a happy accident, and I'm not going to break my back trying to fill the void.
It was removed due to a US sex trafficking bill which holds websites more accountable for ads placed by users.
It was easier to be forthcoming in an anonymous message, than if you were face to face in a club, where you might feel shy or ashamed about saying what you wanted." Several of RJ's Casual Encounters involved acting out a faceless stranger fantasy: "I'd give them the postcode for my street, then when they were a few minutes away, I'd tell them where I live.
I'd buzz them into the building, or leave the fire exit ajar, then I'd leave my flat door open so they could just walk in.
It's something I've done since I was a teenager — checking the ads was like a ritual.
"The Personals can be seedy and raunchy, but people are intelligent too.