Understanding Abuse People have difficulty understanding the motives of people who are involved in abuse.Why people choose to abuse other people is a common question.For example, someone with anger management issues, a diagnosis of intermittent explosive disorder, or a drinking or drug problem may easily get out of control during arguments (e.g., because there is something wrong with their ability to inhibit themselves at the brain level) and verbally or physically strike out at their partners and dependents.Still other people who abuse end up abusing because they have an empathy deficit, either because of some sort of brain damage, or because they were so abused themselves as children that their innate empathic abilities never developed properly.That they hurt others in the process may go unregistered or only occur as a dim part of their awareness.Abusive behavior can also result from mental health issues or disorders.Peer advocates can connect you to resources in your area, provide you with helpful websites, help you create a plan to stay safe or just listen to your concerns.All conversations with peer advocates via phone, chat or text are free and confidential.
Neither of these questions have easy answers and even the strongest attempt to educate yourself as to why people might make these seemingly irrational choices will not lead to complete understanding. The first question, "Why do people abuse other people? As a consequence, abuse is the normal condition of life for these people.
For example, we’re often asked: “So, what should I do?
Did you know that one in three adolescents experience some form of dating abuse before the age of 18?
Abuse situations must be lived in and experienced before their internal logic makes any sense. Such people internalized a particular relationship dynamic, namely the complementary roles of "abuser" and "victim".
They are familiar with and fully understand the terror of being the helpless victim from their own childhood experience.