If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.
As a rule, though, never put your FWB into a role that is outside the arrangement (which is pure sexual enjoyment and exploration).
I want something that’s dependable enough that I can take care of my needs without having to jump from guy to guy or pick some guy up at a bar or club.
Yes, I understand that this isn’t what women say they typically want, but I just got out of a long, difficult relationship and I don’t want to dive right back into commitment again.
and they succeed if the other person isn’t in a stable place herself.
you don’t want to have to explain to other people that it ended or your reasons why.This doesn’t mean that you’re cold, distant or treat them like an object. If you follow rule #5, you will most likely avoid this entirely. You’re not bringing your problems into it and neither is he. Similarly, you are not arguing with each other or putting expectations on one another.It simply means that you limit how you relate to them… If you notice strong negative feelings coming up in yourself, it’s time to end it. With all this in mind, this is why the next rule is super important…and as a result, many men and women feel pressure to learn and explore their own sexuality.They’re held back in fear of being shamed or shunned by their peer group or society as a whole.