My bet is that the root of it is some kind of fear or bad experience.I don’t know the guy or have much information on him, so I am just making a guess.It sounds like he’s reluctant because he’s dealing with his own stuff and he wants to make sure that both of you are ready for a relationship.Take it from me, sometimes a guy can really love a woman and not be ready or in a position to have a relationship.He said that he expected me to pull back, but not cut it off completely.Then, he back peddled and said he prays daily for god to release some of the things in his life.I said that my future husband would just take my car and I would take his.
Now, in the context of when I said it, the gist of the situation was the girl wanted more and the guy seemed comfortable where he was.
For all I know, he might have committed to his ex-wife and once he did, it was all downhill.
For that reason, he might believe (on an emotional level) that if he starts defining commitments that the relationship will go downhill.
I processed this and the next day told him that we probably shouldn’t talk or see each other anymore.
My rationale was that I was too emotionally caught up and didn’t know when he would have the ‘capacity.’ He was in utter shock!